“You drain everything out of me!” she said. “You have unreal expectations of what sisters are suppose to be!” she said.
“I can’t handle you anymore!” she said “I’m trying to have a life of my own!” she said “It’s always about you, you never ask about my problems!” she said.
I said “I know, I’m sorry, please stop, I love you, I don’t mean to do it, I try so hard to be good but I can’t help it, if you would talk to me more it wouldn’t be like that”.
“It isn’t normal for sisters to talk everyday or even every other day!”. she said
“Mom and Auntie Lee talked everyday” I said. I didn’t say that they went places together and laughed all the time too.
“You’re going to hate me for this but I don’t care. You NEED THERAPY or I’m not doing this anymore” she said
“Fine” I whispered and hung up the phone feeling light headed and confused. I wanted to hit something or hurt someone, mostly myself.
I’m that unloveable my twin can’t talk to me. I put such a strain on her that she avoids me on purpose. All I have ever wanted is her UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I’ll never get it. I have no friends left, my mom is gone, what I used to numb the pain is gone, there is nothing left but to take it and I don’t know how many more years I can. Hasn’t over 20 been enough? The ache in my chest never goes away now. It gets harder and harder to control the tears in public. I have not eaten in 2 days I don’t feel like it there’s a lump in my throat. The lump of doom. I’m tired. Cold. Done.
November 20th, 2015 at 11:55 AM
Big big hug. You ARE loveable and worthy of love and tenderness. Your sister is trying to set boundaries. Maybe get an idea of what good bonding time means to her. Maybe you could reserve what sounds like complaining for therapists or call a help line. I’m sorry you’re hurting. I never talk to my brother. I never rely on him for anything. I’ve trained myself to just expect a non-relationship. Very sad, but it is what it is.
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November 21st, 2015 at 12:01 PM
Thank you!
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November 21st, 2015 at 3:04 PM
You’re welcome 🙂
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November 13th, 2015 at 2:15 PM
i’m so sorry
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